Love yourself this Valentine's Day

Posted by Sami Thorpe | 13th February 2016

With Valentine's Day just around the corner, I'd like to share with you some of the things I've learned about meeting the right person and creating a good relationship, but before I do, I think it's useful to explore the relationship we have with ourselves.

My husband Vic and I will celebrate our wedding anniversary this Valentine's weekend. In the early stages of our relationship, we had many difficulties to get through - which we did before we married. The big turnaround for us both was when we stopped trying to fix each other and focused on fixing ourselves instead.

Write yourself a Valentine's love letter

So, in today's video I'd like to invite you to write a Valentine's love letter to yourself. You may want to do this in general or in relation to a specific part of you, as I mention in the video:

Begin by following the steps of Heart Conscious Breathing and allow a part of you to come forward that may need your attention.

Here are the Heart Conscious Breathing steps:

  • A - Attention to the heart area
  • B - Breathe in and out of the heart area
  • C - Connect with a feeling of appreciation or gratitude

Do Heart Conscious Breathing for a couple of minutes and allow yourself to be in your heart, rather than in your busy head. Then write your letter. You might like to start it with:

"I am writing from the heart to say..."

And just allow yourself to write whatever comes up. Once you've done this, do Heart Conscious Breathing again and then read the letter to yourself.

How was that for you? Let me know in the comments how you get on.

You can do this exercise as many times as you need, either to different parts of yourself, or to say whatever you need to say. Remember, stay in the heart area and write whatever comes up; don't get 'thinking' too much about it!

In the next video, I'll talk about how to create a better relationship with yourself so that you can improve your relationship with others.

To find out more about Heart Conscious Breathing or to sign up for my Conscious Health Practice online course, visit