Love Yourself Part 2 – the NOW state

Introducing the NOW state

Following on from my last Valentine’s blog, this next video reflects on how the exercise of writing yourself a love letter went and introduces the NOW state as a way to be in the present moment and appreciate the strategies you have developed.

Writing a love letter

In the last blog, I introduced you to Heart Conscious Breathing and asked you to write a love letter to yourself or to a part of yourself that you feel needed validation. How did you get on with that?

I tried it myself and something quite interesting happened so, before I talk about the NOW state, I wanted to reflect on my experience and also on the feedback I’ve had from those of you who also tried the exercise. It was interesting that it brought stuff up for some of you, as much as it also gave you the opportunity to love a part of yourself.

Connecting with my 14 year-old self

When I did the love letter exercise, I connected with my 14 year-old self and I noticed that some of the strategies I’d adopted back then had come to the forefront in some problems I’ve experienced recently.

Watch the video below to discover what this meant for me and what I learned from it.

Being in the present moment

In the video, I also talk about the importance of being in the present moment and I talk you through the NOW state and what this means:

So there you have it; NOW stands for being a Neutral Observant Witness. Practise using the ABC breathing technique to become present and a Neutral Observant Witness of what’s going on with your body and your emotions.

In case you need a reminder of the ABC technique, watch my earlier video about it.

If you’ve any questions, or want to share your experience of NOW and ABC, please email me or leave a comment below.

Introducing the Five Heart Keys

My experiences with my own relationship have led me to develop the Five Heart Keys. These are the five areas that I’ve identified to help you create a better relationship with yourself and to improve your relationship with others. Over my next few blogs, I’ll introduce you to each of the five areas.

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David Bowie and Alan Rickman Were Not ‘Victims’ of Cancer

Do you want to understand the root-causes of disease?

I was very sad to hear last week of the death of David Bowie, a man who had so much impact in so many ways across so many generations.  And then, to hear that Alan Rickman had also passed away at the same age and in the same week, also of cancer.

The thing that makes me most sad is that both of these deaths – David Bowie from liver cancer and Alan Rickman from pancreatic cancer – might potentially have been prevented if the research and focus was in the right place. Rather than spending heaps of research money on drugs and treatments simply to manage the symptoms (many of which have debilitating or life-threatening side-effects themselves), it would be more helpful to look at the root-causes of the disease and what triggered them in the first place.

If David Bowie and Alan Rickman had understood the real cause of their illness and had the help and support to focus on healing the things that were triggering their body to run these programmes, they might not have been taken from us so soon.

They – and anyone else fighting cancer – are not victims. Their bodies were trying to adapt to traumas that they didn’t know about or understand. Managing the symptoms while at the same time seeking the root cause and creating the right healing environment – one of love and understanding, not fear and anger – would have been a far more successful strategy, as I explain in this video:

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Let’s all stop being victims and instead start 2016 by taking back our power to become MASTERS of our own HEALTH!

I will shortly be making a video series on how to understand and take control of your health, looking at the key symptoms and illnesses that affect us today, starting with liver cancer and pancreatic cancers. The series will also look at diabetes, heart disease, muscular skeletal issues such as arthritis and muscle pain, asthma, eczema, skin cancer, lung cancer and Fibromyalgia to name but a few. The series that follows will also look in depth at emotional and behavioural issues such as anger and rage, eating disorders, depression and bi-polar disorder.

I will share with you the ‘HOW TO’ of health and wellbeing so that you can understand your specific symptoms and know exactly what to focus on to support your body in its own natural healing process.

We are born to survive, we are born to grow. But, to survive, grow and thrive we need to process stress and trauma and support the body back into its natural healing state. 

 Join me for my free webinar introduction: ‘Conscious Health Practice – Understanding the Root-Cause of Liver Cancer’ Monday 1st February 7.30pm – 9.30pm GMT.

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Or why not join Conscious Health Practice online membership and learning community to get unlimited access to all video series and webinars as well as full and unlimited access to the personal breakthrough course ‘7 Steps to Conscious Health Practice‘ as well as all the new monthly content and support.

Here’s to your vibrant health!

Heart Conscious Breathing

Heart Conscious Breathing is the important foundation of any personal transformation work that we do, especially in Heart Conscious Healing. It is also a technique in itself that you can use to help in re-regulating your autonomic nervous system (ANS). Here we look at what happens to the body when in stress and how you can use Heart Conscious Breathing to bring you back to the present moment.

Heart Rate Variability

Regular breathing and attention to the heart regulates the pattern of your heart – your Heart Rate Variability (HRV). This in turn sends new signals to your brain and the rest of your body. This simple process brings you back to the present moment through the power of regulating your physiology, NOT by trying to use your thoughts and the control of your mind or emotions, which is almost impossible when you are in stress.

Fight, flight or freeze

When you are in stress you are in a different part of the brain; so thinking, reasoning, planning, being resourceful and creative are not really an option! In stress your priority is to escape or evade danger, fight to WIN (this is a ‘do or die’ drive) or if these options are not available, to freeze and fein death until the danger has passed. Sometimes after a freeze response you can go into fight or flight mode, still with the aim to evade the danger and get to safety.

No time for thinking

It is never a priority when you’re in stress to ‘have a nice think’ about how you would like to respond. These responses are hardwired survival responses and happen automatically. Quite simply, you need to be safe from danger to be able to come into your full cortical thinking, so this is offline until you are safe.

Stress triggers

During our early childhood experiences we learn what is safe and what is not safe. This is why different people respond differently to different situations – what one person perceives as dangerous (and therefore stressful) may not be how another person perceives it. The more we accumulate events that have not been dealt with and completed, the more stress can build up in the system because our body is primed to respond to many possible triggers or ‘cues’ to potential threats.

Being exposed to a life threatening situation means we ‘hardwire’ (like a short circuit response) the need to respond again in the future and this is why Post Traumatic Stress Disorder creates specific responses in the autonomic nervous system when certain ‘triggers’ alerts the system that there is a possible danger. Simple everyday things can become cues for someone to feel unsafe and need to respond. The person is ‘back in the moment’ of the original danger and adopts the original response.

Using Heart Conscious Breathing quickly informs the autonomic nervous system that the danger is ‘not happening now’ and allows us to become more in control of ourselves again, rather than being triggered into the response to a past event.

The ABC of Heart Conscious Breathing

A – Attention to the heart area (awareness)
B – Breathe in and out of the heart area
C – Connect with a feeling of appreciation for someone or something you are grateful for

This short video talks you through the simple Heart Conscious Breathing technique:


Just a few moments of Heart Conscious Breathing every day or when you really need it will give you the deeper ABC:

A – Alignment
B – Balance
C – Coherence

Remember, you cannot be in stress and growth/repair at the same time – give yourself time to replenish your energy, refresh your body and renew your true self.

Get back into the present moment with Heart Conscious Breathing.

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